Healing from the impacts of twinship.
Many twins come to therapy knowing there was something different about their childhood experience. They understand their relationship is more than that of siblings. The bond is deeper, pain of disconnection greater, and desire for repair profound.
They can’t quite pinpoint what happened, and yet one or both feel disconnected, unseen, or not enough.
These feelings are the result of the unique and often misunderstood twin experience. This ranges from necessary dependence on each other to absence of individuated parenting to societal pressures of sameness. Protective parts emerge and acquiesce to the twin dynamic – caretaking of each other rather than self, surrendering to leader or follower roles, and acceptance of being half of a whole. Over time, this can lead to disconnection, resentment, competition, and detachment from self.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) and somatic therapy offer a way to reconnect to yourself and your twinship.
Welcome. I am Victoria.
TWIN THERAPIST
As a mother of identical twins, I understand the complexities of raising twins and see, firsthand, the evolving dynamics between them.
I’ve spent much of my life seeking to understand the human experience – our relationship to self and how that translates to our family, friends, intimate relationships, and the greater world. Countless years spent reading, interviewing, contemplating (and pursuing too many degrees) all served to understand the twin experience.
But it wasn’t until my twins were born that my understanding evolved and my resolve to work with adult twins and twin parents deepened.
Client Reflections
"My brother and I didn’t even know a twin therapist existed! After our consultation with Victoria, we knew she was the perfect therapist to help us. After we both married our relationship become distant and conversations about our feelings of loss and hurt, ended in fights. We were at a standstill.
Victoria normalized our emotions, guided us in better understanding each other through a twin-specific lens, and walked us, step-by step, through repairing our relationship. I am so grateful for the tools she shared to help us find our way back to each other."
SP | 47 years old | Family Therapy for Twins
Client Reflections
"When I lost my twin sister to cancer, the weight of the loss felt so much heavier than what I expected. I couldn’t understand the strength of grief’s hold on me, and no one recognized my grief in the way I needed.
Victoria saw my pain through the lens of my twinship – she helped me see that I didn’t just lose my sister, I lost my twin, and that is different. She helped me navigate my grief and come to a place of radical acceptance that others may not understand the loss of a twin but they can support me. I am grateful for Victoria’s stewardship through my grief process."
LN | 60 years old | Grief and Loss Therapy for Twins
Client Reflections
"I love my twin sister – she is my biggest support and loudest cheerleader – and yet we couldn’t stop the bickering that ultimately turned into damaging fights. Victoria helped me strengthen my communication style, understand my triggers, and build deeper empathy and understanding for my sister.
A combination of the exploration of self and practical communication and regulation tools shifted my relationship with my sister to the place I’ve always wanted – loving, supportive, empathic and as drama-free as twin sisters can be!"
MK | 26 years old | Individual Twin Therapy
